
Dear Friends,
Normally, I like to be a model of Zen composure when I write my columns, objectively and wisely delineating the upcoming week for all of you, with perhaps a carefully chosen example of how the energy is affecting me personally, as an illustration of how this energy could manifest in our experience. Unfortunately, that is not the case today! I am HOT! as in mad, as in angry, as in incredulous…. Maybe you are, too? Mercury has been dancing back and forth over over 21 degrees Virgo this past week, triggering the exact degree of the Saturn-Uranus opposition of February 9th, 2009, which was also a lunar eclipse! These two planets are in a two year full phase cycle which started on November 4, 2008 at 19 Virgo, and includes four other oppositions at 21 (2.9.2009), 25 (9.15.2009), and 29 (4.26.2010) degrees Virgo, with the final opposition this phase being at 1 degree Libra on July 26, 2010. Normally, we look to Mars to ignite these sensitive degrees, but “neutral” Mercury is certainly waking up some decidedly UN-neutral feelings for all of us this week. The new Moon on September 18th promised us lot of change, lots of new information, lots of attention to detail, lots of everything, but it did not promise to direct it for us. The directing is our job, and some of us are directing this energy, this surfeit of information and change, in a less than productive manner, making many of those around us the target of accusations, reactions, or denials. How do we deal with these irrational people slinging fear and guilt, reprisal and denial in every direction? The answer lies with Pluto in Capricorn and our understanding of what it means to be responsible.
We are responsible for the things we do, the decisions we make, and the way in which we communicate and react. We are responsible for taking care of ourselves, and we are responsible for upholding our promises, assuming the promises we make are reasonable and withing our ability to execute. We are NOT responsible for how others choose to react, how others choose to think or what others choose to believe, even if they seem to be “barking up the wrong tree.” We are all free to make mistakes, reason poorly, believe untruths, and create drama. Ultimately, we must all accept responsibility for the CONSEQUENCES of our actions, good or bad, responsible or not, intelligently informed or not, cruel or kind. If we are responsible for creating a mess, then we are responsible for cleaning it up. However, if you created a mess, it is not my responsibility to clean it up. If I anger someone with my words, it is not your responsibility to play the peace-maker. If we are targeted as the unlucky recipient of someone else’s poor judgment, lack of intelligence, or delusion (as I have been this week), then what can we do? Let them take responsibility for their own actions. Let them suffer the consequences for their irrational and unfair behavior. What else is there? I could beg and plead for forgiveness, but then again, I didn’t do anything! Why would I make amends for something I did not do? Why would you? Do we need the approval of an irrational or manipulative friend/lover/coworker/family member so badly that we would accept responsibility for something we did not do just to be “forgiven?” Yes, at some points in my life, I would have, because I was insecure and needed approval, but now I say, “You are nuts if you believe that about me!” Yes, I hurt. Yes, I am wounded that my friend would believe that I hacked and terrorized her email account as revenge because she put her own house numbers on her own mailbox (yes, seriously, that is the accusation!) Does the accusation mean that I DID IT? What? Am I really even wasting my precious blog space on this topic? Well, yes, because I want all of you who read my column to understand that you are not responsible for the foolishness that other people sling around in an effort to battle their own fears and delusions! Do not let them co-opt you into it, because they will, and it isn’t your fault or your responsibility!
Thanks for allowing me to vent! Sometimes voicing our issues allows us to release them so that we can move forward. What do you need to voice this week?
So moving on to the week ahead!
Basically, its more of the same. There is a reason times are difficult for us right now. The reason is because we still aren’t getting “it,” whatever “it” is. Until we get it, we will continue find ourselves in situations, relationships, etc. which highlight the lesson(s) we are not learning. The situations will be “tutoring” sessions, although they may feel more like torture sessions! Believe me, its all about cutting ties to past patterns that don’t serve us and implementing new patterns in the place of the old and dysfunctional ones. It is about learning boundaries and responsibility. Some of us are co-dependent and we feel responsible for everything, no matter what! Well, we are having a very difficult time right now, because someone or something is trying to drag us down, manipulate us into feeling responsible for the mess they have created all on their own. As long as we allow them to do this, they will continue. Enough is enough, already. If things are good, then we are being successfully taking care of ourselves and letting others do the same. This doesn’t mean that we cant be helpful or supportive, but it does mean that in the end, we must all learn, the wise and unwise alike, that we must lie in the beds we have made.
Saturday, October 4 will see the Moon full at 11 degrees 10 minutes of Aries. Full Moons are a time when we receive feedback from the universe on the progress we are making with the assignments we have been given. The sign Aries is all about identity, self-understanding, and promoting ourselves out into the world. This full Moon will show us how well we are asserting ourselves, how well we have created a positive self-image for ourselves, and to what extent we have failed to do these things. The ruler of this full Moon is Mars, who is at 23.5 degrees of Cancer at the full Moon. Fiery and assertive Mars is not comfortable in timid, moody, protective Cancer. Cancer is not an assertive sign unless it feels threatened, and then it is not only assertive, but down right ill-tempered and mean! I have spent many days crabbing in the SC Lowcountry, and let me assure you, an angry blue crab in not an easy adversary! On the other hand, Mars in Cancer also allows us to act with greater compassion and caring, assuming we are directing the energy, rather it directing us. Let’s all use this energy to take care of ourselves! Mars will be opposing the North Node in Capricorn, which will create tension between our urge to indulge our lower “crabby” nature (read: codependent) and the higher octave of allowing responsibility to lay at the feet of the proper party. Sometimes we help people best by allowing them to reap the negative consequences they have sowed. How will they ever learn, otherwise?
Also on this full Moon, Mercury, Venus, and Saturn, all in Virgo, are all opposing Uranus, who continues to upgrade our operating systems whether we want it upgraded or not! (No wonder Microsoft is releasing Windows 7 soon.. but not yet, they are still fine tuning… sounds familiar?) Virgo is the sign most concerned with health, and with both Venus and Mercury having an extended chat together in this sign with Saturn, we are most certainly faced with situations where there is a clearly healthy choice, even though, as with healthy food, it may not be the choice we crave. Mars trines Uranus, which will help to foster a choice which may be unusual for us, so if we always choose the pizza, then maybe today we can choose the kale, and that would be a good thing. Of course, we may also choose to give in to the cravings for what is familiar, trading sustenance for empty calories, and the tutoring session will continue with more whining, complaining, headaches and difficulty. The choice is always ours, even if it is difficult.
The best news from this full Moon will be the opportunity created by the Mystic triangle formed between the opposition of Mars and the North Node in sextile to the opposition from the Virgo stellium to Uranus. Mystic triangles are openings we must search for, they are not going to impose themselves upon us like the Saturn-Uranus opposition has. The mystic rectangle creates a space where we can work with the oppositions through the complimentary sextiles and trines that exist when two oppositions sextile each other. It is not necessary to understand the geometry, but if we can allow our critical (and by critical I mean analytic, not petty) insights to direct our actions, if we can break out of our co-dependent boxes and allow the mess-makers in our lives the opportunity to take responsibility for their own actions (as opposed to cleaning up the mess so that they do not have to claim responsibility), then we may find that we create a space for ourselves to experience what life could be like if we could continue to be strong enough to make these changes part of our daily lives. This will require strong determination and serious concentration our own issues, needs, and patterns without fearing the consequences from the outside world. Taking care of ourselves is not selfish! There is no guarantee that leaving the mess for the mess-maker will create change for them, but then again, it isn’t about them, it is about us! We need to give ourselves a chance, to liberate ourselves from low self-esteem and dependence on the feeling of being responsible for others in order to justify our own existence. All we need to justify ourselves is a clear vision of our needs and of our talents, and how to use the latter in order to satisfy the former. Once we do these two things, we can begin to share more of ourselves with the world around us, without becoming a pariah or martyr for the shortcomings of those we love.
Watch these dates, as there is sure to some further drama:
Tuesday, Oct 6: Mercury (in a stellium with Venus and Saturn) conjuncts Saturn at 25 Virgo, the degree of the September 15th Saturn-Uranus opposition, drawing the tensions from that date into our relationships and requiring some communication about the issues. The stellium also trines the North Node in Capricorn, requiring that responsibility be appropriately assigned where it belongs and that practical concerns should trump theory.
Wednesday and Thursday, Oct 7-8: Mars sextiles 25 Virgo, creating the drive for action with respect to Tuesday’s issues. Remember: We are only responsible for taking care of ourselves and for cleaning up our own messes! Be practical, reasonable, and fair.
Thursday, October 8: Air trine between the Moon in Gemini, Sun in Libra, and Jupiter in Aquarius creates a very chatty day and a desire to “work things out.” Beware, working things out does not mean accepting responsibility for something that ISN’T our responsibility. Besides, talk is cheap. Action is where the money is at. Are the people in our lives, especially those with whom we are having repeated difficulty, walking the walk or just blowing hot air?
Friday, October 9: Mercury at 29 Virgo foreshadows the Saturn-Uranus opposition of April 26, 2010. This opposition occurs 2 days before the full Scorpio Moon, ruled by Mars, squaring the Sun, the Moon, and Mercury. Confusion may be the word of the day, but Pluto is the co-ruler of this full Moon, reminding us that using some good sound rational and practical judgment, despite the contrary pull of our emotions, will bring about the transformation we so desperately need in order to feel more in control of our lives.
Hopefully, it did not take all week for you to read this update, but what can I say… there is a lot at stake and I want all of us to pass the test!
with love…
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MOORE TO CONSIDER ABOUT THIS WEEK’S ASTROLOGY
Good, bad, or indifferent, I lost the ability to sit with irresponsibility,
projection, and selfishness many years back. Literally, I can no
longer sit or stand amongst these sorts of conditions which
Mark brings into the spotlight this week. It must then seem
most ironic that I’m so very taken with so much of the petty
content they air on television. Most notably shows like the new
90210 and Melrose Place on The CW. Okay, let me take said
responsibility right now and admit that the dripping gorgeous
guys get me to watch in the first place. But as I describe
when it comes to any show, my greatest entertainment
actually comes from looking beyond the surface of things.
Looking beyond the surface of the script, beyond the ridiculous
dramas going on about a whole lotta nothin’, beyond even the
hot faces and bods. And the more time goes on, the more
peaceful I find myself becoming if I practice the same thing
with day to day life.
Best wishes -
Rob Moore